5 Arguments For Why You Should Delete Tinder
I’ll admit it. I’m guilty of having a Tinder account at one point in my life. After being out of the “dating-circuit” for a while because I had been dating someone I turned to Tinder after said relationship ended. What I found was a world of confused humans; people cramming their lives into 140 characters, people that love selfies, and a ton of people that I have definitely NEVER seen on the street. Needless to say, after some time swiping left, I came to these realizations.
The beauty of human interaction. People spend more time enjoying technology together than they do each others company. I can’t begin to tell you how many tables I have served where the couple is both on their phones, the WHOLE date. It’s like, are you texting each other? Or just taking photos of that piece of chicken like you’ve never seen one before? Maybe their just SnapChatting each other photos of themselves. This new age addiction to technology is not only disgusting but it is ruining human interaction as we know it. Whatever happened to conversations discussing ideas, what you want to accomplish in life, your hopes and dreams for the future? Maybe I’m old fashioned and stuck in my ways, but I prefer to have a mutual like for someone before we take each other to bed. I’m not saying that this can’t happen in a single night, but what’s the point of pre-planning it on an application?
Dating isn’t an application. In life, you can’t choose who you’re going to be with by simply swiping right or left. You can’t just GPS where your ideal partner, who you have never met is, and Uber it to them. I feel like too many people nowadays are caught up in the prospect of virtual love. Thing’s like being “Facebook Official” or PDA on social networks is disgusting to me. Not everyone needs to know about what you ate for dinner and how much you are in love with whoever it is you’re seeing nowadays. Those things are private, they should remain that way. At the end of the day, what I am trying to say is, you wouldn’t date your cell phone….act accordingly.
You shouldn’t date someone based solely on their looks. Although looks do have a large part in choosing who you’re going to be with, they aren’t everything. There’s no thrill in waking up next to a beautiful girl when you can’t stand a single thing that comes out of her mouth. “The prettiest people do the ugliest things, on the road to riches and diamond rings.” I am pretty sure that quote summarizes everything.
Love has to happen on it's own. When something so delicate is forced, it doesn't turn out right. Spontaneity, surprises, dedication, and mutual respect are what keep people together. Just because you both like Sunday brunch and vacationing in Hawaii doesn’t mean that you are meant to be. Too many people are selfish nowadays and don’t want to spend the time to commit to a relationship when they would rather be spending it on themselves. What I am trying to say love isn’t a convenience, it’s supposed to mean something. Would you really swipe right or left on something that meant the world to you?
This relationship isn’t about you, it’s about US. With applications like Tinder or OKCupid where who you “match” up with is how you determine who you are going to try to go on a date with. The only problem with this is that people match with each other according to a “chemistry-test”, a profile picture, or a brief description of themselves. Personally, I feel like there are an infinite amount of things you can learn about a person so there is no way that you could possibly ever put them all down into a summary in your profile. There’s also no way that you and another person are EVER going to have every single thing in the world in common, so trying to make lists and graphs online comparing some similarities is pointless. Online dating site match.com says that 1 in 5 of it’s relationships are a success! Then how come the divorce rate in America is around 50%? Initially, comparing your similarities and being happy with them may work, but in the long run, unless you really get to know the person, accept them for who they are, and put in the necessary work to make the relationship work, it’s probably not going to workout.
“You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”
“Epicirus”
Since coming to these realizations I have deleted all dating apps and sincerely vow to never use them again. Although it is possible to meet someone virtually, I know that building a real-life relationship will be much more meaningful and longer-lasting eternally. So put down your phone, I’ll see ya out there.
